7 people, you need in your life
As you grow up and get into relationships and advance in your career – usually in your late 20’s or 30’s – you start to realize that there are some people you can build life-long friendships with and those that you have to throw out completely.
I got to that point in my life fairly quickly. I was 18 years old, fresh out of high school, and pregnant. That alone separated me from most of the people I had come to know as friends. We just couldn’t relate or didn’t have anything in common anymore.
I’m turning 30 this year, and life has taught me some lessons I tell ya. Here are the 7 best types of people to keep around you. (strive to be one of these people as well so you can maintain positive friendships)
1. The CheerLeader
This is the person in your life who thinks you are amazing. They cheer you on and believe in everything you do. You go to them with some good news and they hype you up like nobody’s business. They see your potential and everything you can be. This to me is my younger sister. I would go to her and be like “Man, there is this fat on my belly and it’s not going away” she would switch it up and be like “Girrrrrlll, that ass though, you got that butt that everybody wants, turn around and let me see!”
She is the best! She gave me the motivation to start this blog and my creative business as well.
2. The Pusher
The pusher is someone who pushes you to be the best person you can be. They make you question your life choices, your direction, your career goals, your relationships. This is someone everyone needs in their circle, and the more pushers you have, the better.
The Pusher makes me to see the positives in life, to be a better version of myself, to pursue my goals, my ambitions, my hobbies and my dreams.
3. The Loyal Confidant
This is the person who loves you and will always be there to hear what’s on your mind. the good. the bad. the ugly. having someone you know you can go to and won’t judge or share your conversation is the ultimate friend.
I have a couple of these. My two friends are the ultimate confidants. I know I’m safe, I know my conversation is safe, I know my feelings are safe.
4. The Energizer
Energizers are those people who have an infectious zest for life. Not only are they optimistic but they encourage you to dream big. So these are not your average happy go lucky or ‘fun times’ kind of people. Energizers leave you laughing, inspired, and filled with amazing positive energy.
Personally, these are people I need around me all the time. I am a realist and for that reason, I see situations as they are currently, not what they could be. I can also be a tad bit self-hating, negative, and prone to depression. The energizer is someone who can give you a new lease on life so to speak and get you out of a rut.
5. The Mentor
A mentor is someone who has already done what you are trying to do and is successful. For me, this person doesn’t have to be in the business world or in a particular career. Personally, I value motherhood, family, education and relationships then business and career in that specific order. So my ideal mentor is someone who has succeeded in striking a balance with these areas rather than a person who has succeeded in one or two areas alone.
Have you found a mentor? What are your areas of mentor-ship?
6. The Adventurous Side Kick
It is so easy to get stuck in your routine, you know, work, school, kids, etc etc. A sidekick is there to nudge you to try new things, pushing you through your fears and boundaries and is a great accountability partner.
Well, I was in a relationship with the most adventurous and spontaneous person on the planet. He is the ultimate risk-taker. The true definition of ‘work hard play hard’. He says F*#k it lets go do it! Now most people who know me know I’m an absolute worry wort, I cherish routine. I always need to know what’s next. And you know what, maybe I’m quite boring as well, oops! So it makes sense that I get attracted to my complete opposite.
7. The Best Friend
Your fiercest defender. Your loyal confidant. A place for the honest truth. You may have one or a few. This person or people know everything about you, the good, the bad, and they still love you and think you are awesome. Oh, and for real for real, my best friend is better than yours!
This is one of the most important people you need in your life. this is also a person everybody should strive to be. I have very few true friendships and in all of them, I try to project honesty and a non-judgmental attitude because I expect the same the other way around.
What kind of people do you have around you, and who are you as well?